For the Galentines
Celebrating the Healing Magic of Female Friendship and Self-Discovery
Wild women, let's talk about magic– the rich, nurturing healing magic of the love and self discovery/acceptance that blooms in female friendships. It's time to reclaim February as more than just a month of romantic expectations, consumeristic collecting, and emotional grasping. Let's make it a celebration of sisterhood, self-pleasure, and the delicious freedom of living life on your own terms.
The Healing Power of Sister Circles
There's something magical that happens when women create intentional space to connect. When we are in connection with our female friends, our nervous systems naturally settle. We find ourselves sharing thoughts we didn't even know we had, laughing until our sides hurt, and feeling fully seen in ways that transform our relationship with ourselves.
Female friendship has been shown to release oxytocin, reduce stress levels, and even increase longevity. Beyond biochemistry, these connections offer a profound gift: a safe space to practice vulnerability, express emotions honestly, and rebuild trust in ourselves through showing up honestly in relationships. Space to commit with intention, practice feeling and holding boundaries, and develop secure attachments.
Breaking Free from the "One Who Completes Me" Fantasy
Those of us socialized as women in today’s culture have been fed messages from a very young age that we are only complete if we are coupled, better still if we are married. We are led to believe we must find our “other half,” implying that we are not complete on our own. This narrative creates so much pressure, and makes us feel as if our wholeness depends upon someone else. It makes us feel broken if we find ourselves without a partner, and this pressure often causes women to settle into spaces they don't fit. The truth is, one of the trademarks of relationship satisfaction is a relationship where two whole people come together and create a relational third.
Being single isn't a waiting room for your real life to begin, it is an opportunity to define what you really want that life to look like. It is an invitation to:
Discover what truly lights you up, without hiding or dimming your shine
Develop firm and loving boundaries and learn to communicate them with kindness
Explore your sensuality, sexuality, pleasure, and core desires, and learn how to communicate them
Build a life so aligned, authentic, and nourishing that any future partner will be able to see the level of care and devotion required to partner with you. They will be able to see they are not filling a void, you are already whole
Living through Pathways of Pleasure, Beauty, and Joy
Pleasure is always available and living a pleasurable life is your birthright. It is available in countless moments throughout your day:
The first sip of your morning coffee
A luxurious stretch
A satisfying workout
Dancing in your kitchen to music that moves you
A hot bath scented with your favorite essential oils
The self trust built through setting a boundary lovingly and honoring your needs
Deep belly laughs with friends who you don’t need to hide your parts with
Noticing these moments of pleasure builds your capacity for joy, connection, and more pleasure in your relationship with yourself and others. It is through noticing the glimmers that we begin to see the many beautiful facets of life, even through the hard times.
Female Friendship as Secure Relationship Attachment Figures
Our platonic female friendships can become a safe space for us to embody our wholeness, step into our truths, and work on developing a secure attachment style. When we create friendships based on authenticity, vulnerability, exploration, excitement, pleasure, and continuing to show up when things get hard, we create a safe space to work on healing the way we show up in all of our relationships. Through these friendships we can
Practice expressing needs and desires clearly
Navigate conflicts with love and respect and practice having real repair conversations
Experience secure attachment
Learn to relax into receiving care and attention without obligation
Practice giving care and attention freely and with agency
Stretch your capacity for empathy, vulnerability, and authenticity
The skills you build in these friendships become the foundation for all future relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Building Your Dream Life Now
Notice the ways you wait for a partner to create and live the life you desire. When you notice those gaps, start filling them in for yourself in the present. When you do this, you design the life you want to live
Create rituals that make you feel cherished and celebrated
Plan adventures that excite you, either solo or with friends
Invest in your growth and learning
Create a home environment that delights your senses
Build community around shared interests and values
A meaningful life isn't about checking off society's boxes – it's about tuning into your essence and your body’s wisdom about what makes you feel alive and excited.
Deepening Friendship Through Authentic Expression
Want to take your friendships deeper? Try these practices:
Regular check-ins where you share what's really going on beneath the surface
Adventure dates that push you slightly out of your comfort zones together
Vulnerability challenges where you practice sharing fears and dreams
Celebration circles where you acknowledge each other's growth and wins
Support sessions where you hold space for grief, anger, and all the messy emotions
Reclaiming Connection through Friendship
As women continue to rewrite the rules about love, friendship, and fulfillment, we're creating new possibilities for all of our relationships. We’re building a foundation for sustainable friendships, friendships that will remain important even when we are in romantic partnership. We're showing that:
Deep intimacy exists in many forms beyond romantic partnership
Emotional support can be reliable and consistent without romantic attachment
Personal growth flourishes in the container of loving friendship
Life can be rich, meaningful, and pleasure-filled at every stage
Your Invitation to More
This Galentine's season, consider this your invitation to:
Release the timeline for finding partnership
Embrace the abundance of love already in your life
Deepen into authentic connection with yourself and others
Create pleasure and meaning on your own terms
Release old patterns and shame that are lingering in the shadows
Your life is here now; what are you waiting for?
Gather your goddesses and toast to the beauty of choosing yourself, cherishing your friendships, and creating a pleasurable life that feels like love in action. As you embody your essence and live the life of your dreams, you become magnetic, calling in more of who and what excites you, aligns with you, and illuminates the beauty of who you are!
